Divorce does not need to be miserable. You have decided to end your marriage, but what's next? Attorneys will have you "duking it out" in court for years! Why? Attorneys get paid by the hour! Attorneys BENEFIT from conflict and often do their best to incite it. After all, the longer it drags out, the more money they make. There is ANOTHER WAY.
start at around $6000 and hourly fees average $350+ The average divorce in GA costs a couple over $100,000
especially in high conflict and contentious separations, where abuse is involved and one or both parties are non US citizens.
contentious, time consuming, expensive nor negatively impact yourselves and your children.
We help you navigate the divorce process with minimal conflict. We help you discover what is the BEST option for you, your situation and your family. We identify key areas of conflict and work to mitigate these. We focus FIRST on what is in agreement. We focus on the positives. We help you prepare and file your own documents. We work on conflict resolution skills. We provide emotional support. We help identify your parenting plan and which style of combined parenting works for you. We work on a FLAT FEE. We allow you to design your divorce the way YOU want it, not the way the COURTS want it. When you can agree to keep the proper focus and perspective, your divorce can be healing and provide you with growth and closure. Our initial consultation is ALWAYS complimentary.
We are NOT attorneys. We do NOT provide legal advice. We are experienced ex-husbands and wives who have made mistakes, learned from those mistakes, made better choices, put our families and our children FIRST, experienced both contentious and accordant divorces, and found peace with our decisions. We do NOT engage in conflict for the sake of conflict, and will refer you to some amazing attorneys if you'd rather fight. We do not keep "billable hours" that you don't see until the end of the month. We do NOT represent you in court. We are NOT therapists or licensed counselors. We do not help decide who is to blame. We do NOT take sides. You will get out of this marriage the same way you got in it, together.
Be ready to talk.... a LOT. Open communication with us and with eachother is key.
We are here for you BOTH. As an formerly married couple, we coach you to learn how to work together.
We meet in the comfort of your home, virtually or another neutral location. Whatever will set you up for success.
If you've never sat in "divorce court," I highly recommend it... just not as a "customer." My biggest aha moment was sitting in a court room, again, and suddently realizing the VALUE of our collective misery. There were about 11 couples, that's 22 individual attorneys, stuck in court for 8 hours and they heard ONE case! ONE!!! At the average of $350/hr, that's over $60K in ONE day and only ONE case was heard, which means 20 other attorneys will be back next month to "try again." Mind you, some attorneys charge up to $800 per hour. Why would they resolve your case in ONE day, when they can bill you for 4 days?
The Easy Way
Yes, you do have the option to represent yourself, known as "pro se." However, you are ONE person, and you are likely very gifted at what YOU do, but you did not study law. These attorneys, and judges, and court reporters, and opposing counsel work together all day every day. They make side deals and they may be opposing counsel on one case, but co-counsel on another. These guys are ALL FRIENDS! They are collegues. You are ONE person. They do not have YOUR interests in mind, as a client or as a "pro-se opposing counsel." Judges will almost always favor the "officer of the court" as they will live to deal with them another day and when your case is over, you're gone. Attorneys have priveledges you do not. The system is set up FOR them, and rightly so. They studied for this, this is their JOB. They do not want some civilian coming in and "showing them up." Imagine some newbie with no experience one-upping you at YOUR place of work. They are not going to let this happen.
Not an AttorneyAll you ever see represented are terrible contentious divorces. Because they are entertaining... when you aren't trapped in one. High conflict divorce cases are generally attributed to BOTH parties. But this most often is not the case. The "pie in the sky" hope is that you BOTH can peacefully end your marriage without the additional pain and expense of the court system handing you boxing gloves and bleeding you dry. You can be divorced AND be friends. You can be divorced and NOT hurt each other. We have not only seen it, we have DONE it.
Yes, we Can
The strong and silent type
Handyman | Father | Car Buff | Veteran
Big Josh is the epitome of chill. He brings his sense of calm and enthusiasm for accordance to every situation. As a Combat Army Vet, Josh knows the importance of communication and compromise. His experience with the NSA also makes him a keen BS detector. He has represented himself in both of his divorce proceedings.
A woven tale of love and loss. Married in 2004, Chelsie and Josh were separated by war shortly after the birth of their first son. After 2 years apart and 4 years of marriage, these young lovers no longer knew eachother and chose to end their marriage. It was heartbreaking, but relatively uneventful and both went on to meet new partners and expand their families. Separately, they grew and learned how to coparent together with minimal conflict, even spending holidays all together for the sake of their child, and became very good friends. Nearly a decade later, they both found themselves in very toxic relationships. The process of uncoupling from those individuals landed them back together as a support system. Their shared experience of an accordant divorce, followed by high-conflict, contentious ones, highlighted the flaws in our system and the damage the courts can inflict on families. Together, they are revitalizing a farm in south Fayette County, along with their 4 children, 10 chickens, 3 goats, and many more to come.
The strong and loud type
Advocate | Mother | Veteran | Gardener
Chelsie currently works for a registered charity supporting families of children with special needs. She speaks several languages, has formal training in conflict resolution, peaceful parenting, self regulation and executive fuctioning skills. She also has experience as a paralegal for a divorce attorney.